I had one of those moments over the weekend. My skinny girlfriends said I needed to get a new swim suit. I laughed and said I had just bought a new top (size 12) at Costco! I proudly turned and showed it off. They said oh no! ” I need something more skimpy to show off my new body”. At that, I seriously scoffed.
NO WAY!!! my brain screamed. You don’t have a body that You can show off.
So that thought has been plaguing me all week. What do I really look like. Is the same person I see in the mirror the same thing that other people see?? How do you align the two images.
A lot of days, when I look in the mirror, I think I am walking through the fun house.
Now, I know I DON’T look like that, but how is it that we allow our brains to do this to us? It’s smoke and mirrors most days!
For one thing, I do know it takes time to let your brain catch up with the progress your body has made. This is one reason why I am a firm believer in you need to take time out from your program and give you time to make peace with your changes. A great way to maintain through those breaks is to be sure to only wear your new tighter fitting clothes. NEVER go back and re-buy a bigger size.
But the other thing is that we do need to almost forgive ourselves for the punishment we have put our bodies through. I think sometimes, we let our brains tell us we are still fat as a kind of penance. We do it because we don’t want to believe we can now keep the body we have worked so hard to achieve.
So how do we over come this?????
Obviously it is not healthy to keep our minds all twisted up. That takes a hell of a lot of too much energy that I would rather spend elsewhere.
Bottom line . . . Acceptance. Accept the compliment. Accept that you have surrounded yourself with people that are cheering you on. Accept the lusty stares from your husband. Accept that you CAN keep and continue to improve your new body. Accept that you are truly WORTH it.
Well, enough rambling. If you haven’t done it yet today, Go get outside already.
I took my afternoon walk and it was WINDY!!!!!!