Happy Father’s Day

As I sit here writing, just saying “happy father’s day” doesn’t seems like it is enough.  The words are easy, but the older we get, the more blessed we are to truly have a terrific relationship.

Blessed with so many great adventures, from back packing and camping, to learning how to body surf.  Always willing to go local and try something new and different.  Listening to Jeremy’s stories about Papa on their trip brings a flood of memories.

Great ones like staying overnight in a castle in Spain.  Scary when he was in the car accident in Jeddah. REALLY Scary when Dad had an asthma attack and collapsed in Bakersfield the day the station wagon broke down.  Hilarious when the “Dernetz clan” welcomed Rob into the clan.  Tense ones when Dad grilled Rob about his “intentions”.  Frustrating ones when we truly didn’t understand where each other was coming from.  Sorrow through the many painful moments our lives.  Joy in seeing you find love again.  Grief in the loss of two terrific brothers. Pride in watching me get married. Protective and always looking after for me even when I didn’t recognize it or was too stubborn to want it. Shear happiness seeing his grandsons for the first time.

Now watching you create new great memories with my husband & sons is a new blessing. Large family adventures to San Diego, Fishing trout ponds to bait boats, Trips to Kansas, the museums (so many museums), going to Yellow Stone & the Tetons.  Family Reunions and weddings in Baltimore.  Taking Sean to Philadelphia & Baltimore and now your trip with Jeremy’s trip to Spain.

Thank You!! Thank you for all you have done and continue to do for me, for Rob, and the boys. Blessed are all those wonderful memories. I can’t wait to make more together.

I love you Dad!

Wayne & Julia

Happy Father’s Day

love Julie

kids. fountains. need I say more?

We went to Park Place tonight and had dinner at Pig & Finch.  Park was having their summer concert series.  Nice Band, good blend or rock and blues.

Best was watching the kids.  After 4 days of rain, seeing the kids play in and out of the fountains let’s you know summer is finally going to take root.

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Grace (under pressure?)

I’ve been thinking a lot about grace these last few weeks.

  • What does it mean?
  • How does one act?
  • Do I deserve it?
  • Do you give it?
  • If not, do you receive it?
  • How do we accept grace?

Today, I think, I don’t know what to think.  It is the question.  It is the answer.  It is our perception?  Looking at old world Spain, through Jeremy’s pictures, you see how our ancestors looked at Grace.

It was something to strive for.  Through the gates of Heaven, we hope to gain grace.  No matter our background, we can only hope we gain the gift. Get entrance.

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How do we live our life? How do we gain grace?

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How we perceiver, each and every day. . . (i think) that is our Grace.



Life changes.  (yes – I hate changes-duh this is not new).

You keep looking at the same thing ~ trying to get clarity.  You look at it from this way and that and it still doesn’t make any sense.  It swirls and changes no matter which way you look at it.

So what is that grounds us?


Your perspective of life, your situation, experience, society, ethos, your experiences determine your sense of things. Your perspective determines your grounding.  What is right – what is wrong . . . where you are. . . when you are . . . what happened. . . why it happened. . . Is it right??

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Still the same world.  Just your perspective.

Still??? What do you distill from all of that?

my opinion????   . . . right and wrong is what is left in that crucible. Period.

I don’t mean to be simplistic, but working with the Scouts, I keep coming back to the Scout Law.  A “Scout is . . .

  • Trustworthy
  • Loyal
  • Helpful
  • Friendly
  • Courteous
  • Kind
  • Obedient
  • Cheerful
  • Thrifty
  • Brave
  • Clean
  • and Reverent

These laws are clear.  They fall in to cover most issues in every religion.  They are “right and wrong”.  Yes. Black and White.  bit still . . .

Right and wrong is still the perspective.  Maybe Not at he individual, but society, yes.

At the end of the day, there are still right and wrong. The Scout law is my law.  I truly believe that is everyone’s crucible still falls in the same spot.

???  i don’t know.  still asking. But the law?  where does that fit in your PERSPECTIVE.

just asking